A Child’s Request
By Kathryn Kvols, author of Redirecting Children’s Behavior
- Hold me, touch me, snuggle me often, for it is through your love that I flourish.
- Watch me, listen to me, take your time with me when you read “Green Eggs and Ham” to me, for I judge my importance by how important I am to you.
- Be patient, understand me first, whenever possible help me to get what I want, for it is through your interactions with me that I learn how to be with others.
- Don’t be afraid to be firm with me, it is through your firmness that I learn the courage of caring.
- Don’t bribe me, reward me, or punish me, for it robs me of the opportunity to listen to my internal voice.
- Don’t hit me or yell at me, for it teaches me to use force to get my way.
- Forgive yourself quickly, for my spirit is resilient.
- Instead of remembering my footprints on your windshield, my impish protests, and the hole I knocked in the wall, REMEMBER the night I discovered my shadow, my arms around your neck, and the delight of my giggles.
- I will remember your butterfly kisses, your open arms, dancing in the rain with you, and the plastic frog you put under my eggs at breakfast – more than the toys and clothes you bought me.
- On our difficult days, watch me while I sleep. Marvel at my eyelashes, cheekbones and finger tips and remind yourself of how much you love me.
- When given choice, assume the best of me and expect the best from me.
- Stand by me but let me fight my own battles, for it is here that I develop my strength and build my character.
- Support my ever changing dreams. I need someone to believe in me when I don’t.
- Trust me as a teen even though there is no evidence that you should. Trust that you have taught me well.
- Allow me to express who I am and make life’s decisions even though they differ from yours.
- Lastly, make nothing other than God more important than our family, for it is here that I discover who I am.